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September 4, 2019

ENJOYING THE RIDE, ONE KICKBALL GAME AT A TIME

Details: Gap Striped Tee Shirt, similar-ish here | American Eagle Mom Shorts, here (they’re on sale!)| Timberland Violet Marsh Cross Band Sandal, here

I’d love to tell you that I wore floral flowy dresses all summer with sun hats, but that would be a bold lie. Instead, I wore these high waisted mom jeans and a comfy tee pretty much every other day.  I feel like I always have such high expectations for what I’m going to wear during the summer. I typically stock my closet with romantic maxi dresses and strappy tops, and only end up wearing them once or twice during the season. This summer, I tried to be way more reasonable and practical. And even though my focus is currently on chunky knits and cozy sweatpants, I’m still keeping my summer favorites well within reach.

Enough about my summer clothing choices. Recently, I joined a kickball league with some of my friends, as well as Josh and his friends. It has been so much fun! I’ve never been a sports person, by ANY means. I was always the one in gym class who convinced my gym teacher to let me be the score keeper during floor hockey. The competition intimidated me and I lacked confidence and… coordination. Not much has changed regarding the coordination, but I do have way more confidence in owning what I don’t know and giving the game of kickball my best shot. It has been a blast, and it doesn’t hurt that there’s a free party trolley and a weekly team pregame to calm my nerves. It’s so fun supporting your friends on the field and working as a team. I’ve learned more about myself and made some friends along the way.

So whether it’s playing a sport you’ve never played, being challenged at work with a new project, or learning a new skillset, you’ll never know until you give it your best shot. Never let fear get in the way of trying something new. Even if you fail, an experience is an experience. There are valuable lessons that come out of failure. And I’m so grateful and fortunate to have people in my life who challenge and empower me to go outside my comfort zone. It makes my life so much more interesting and entertaining. The quote below is a gentle reminder to remember what is truly important: 

“Your mission: Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret or fear.” – Karen Salmansohn

Hate, regret and fear require so much energy. Energy that can be much better spent on healing yourself, empowering others and enjoying the ride. I know that I won’t be the next national kickball champion (if there even is one), but I do have some funny stories to share with new friends and old ones. Enjoy your journey and quit thinking about that ideal destination, outcome or expectation. Everything will land where it’s meant to lay. 

Happy Wednesday my friends!

xx

Jackie

August 26, 2019

THINK LESS & “BE” MORE

Details: Levi’s Women’s Denim Trucker Jacket, here| Nordstrom BP. Long Sleeve Rib Tee, here| Animal Print Skirt via Primark, similar here|

Another summer down. It’s crazy how fast it went, I suppose it always goes by this fast. Since I haven’t had to go back to school in seven years, all of the seasons feel the same to me, except for the hellish season that is winter. We all know how it goes: The summer slowly melts into fall and the winter quickly enters like a diva who just snagged her favorite dress–nightmare!

Today I saw my niece and nephew off to their first day of school. I was quickly reminded of all of my first days. And the thoughts of, What should I wear? Will I like my teacher? Who will I sit with at lunch? Will I like my classes? So much to think about and so many emotions to deal with. We all know that going to school quickly becomes as routine as brushing your teeth at night, but there are so many unknowns that first day. I look back on a lot of those moments and wish that I never thought so much about the “what ifs”, and just let those first days and other life events swoop me up like a sailboat in the middle of the ocean and glide me through the moments. Ya know? Just go along for the ride and worry about the twists and turns as they come, instead of trying to prepare for them. Whenever I start to overthink so much that it starts to consume me, I think of the quote:

“There were many terrible things in my life and most of them never happened.” – Michel de Montaigne

The mind is so powerful, and if you let it get away from you, you could truly destroy those precious present moments and those exciting, nervewracking, glorious, first days. First days of kindergarten, first days of high school, first days of college, first days of your first job, first dates, first baby, the list goes on. So, as difficult as it may be, try and tune out the “what ifs” and focus on the “what nows.”

Now that I’ve shared some common sense wisdom, I decided to create an outfit post of what I might have worn on my first day of school, but, like an adult, almost 30 years old version. Here it goes, a flouncy patterned skirt to show off your hard-earned tan, a simple top, so as not to take away from the skirt, and a denim jacket. A back-to-school outfit could not be complete without it. Voila! Ready for the bus and a post first day Staples run.

While most of you will not be going back to school, and are likely resuming your work routine, but with just an added layer, I hope you acknowledge every moment. Big and small. Time flies by and you don’t want to look back and realize, “I spent so much time thinking, and not enough time being.”

Happy Monday!

xx

Jackie

June 28, 2017

VACATION MODE: SLEEP. BEACH. REPEAT.

Details: Floral drawstring shorts from TJ Maxx, similar here |

I am SO excited to go on a little stay-cation. Next week, I’m heading to my family’s beach house on the Long Island Sound in CT. I’m way overdue for a vacation and am super excited to have no plans, wear these comfy drawstring shorts every day and lay peacefully in the sand. It’s so funny because the past two years, we’ve gone on a fun tropical vacation and don’t get me wrong, that’s always a fun time, but I like the idea of really having no plans. I spend every day organizing and managing my workload, that I’m just excited to not know what I’m doing and not following agenda or a “To Do” list. Aside from shooting some new looks for the blog, I fully intend on living in my bathing suit, cover-up and these comfortable and socially acceptable floral drawstring shorts. I wish I had purchased another pair because they’re just too cute, but I guess I can swap back forth between cover-ups and oversized tees. I’m also excited to eat home cooked food that I don’t necessarily have to purchase OR cook–whoa! What does your ideal summer vacation look like?

xx

Jackie

October 19, 2016

WHAT I LEARNED FROM TAKING A LEAP OF FAITH

untitled-designI remember when I was in high school and experienced my first heartbreak. I sat there with swollen eyes explaining to my parents how much this boy and I had planned for our future together. I mean, I was young but at the time my relationship was my entire world. I remember my dad saying: “We plan, God laughs.” I don’t know why, but this small saying has stuck with me ever since. We spend so much time trying to create the “perfect” life, but we don’t assume that what we’re planning might not work out, or may not be in our best interest. We create this picture in our minds of what life should look like and we break our backs trying to make that happen. But stop for a minute. Look around, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you’re exactly where you need to be. Don’t take life so seriously, and enjoy every experience that comes your way.

When I graduated college I made my way home to New Jersey and began my career in fashion in New York City. My plan was to live and work in the city, and once Josh graduated college I had hoped he too, would make the move. No one told me that the hour and a half commute (one way) into Manhattan would take a toll, not only on my body but my social life too. And no one said that the most glamorous part of my job would be secretly trying on fur coats when no one was looking. Needless to say, I became burnt out and tired of stressing over the most materialistic sh*t. Don’t get me wrong, it was thrilling for the first year (maybe), but I grew tired of not having a life and not making enough money to live on my own. I finally reached my breaking point and decided to take a leap of faith and make the move to Boston. Josh had settled there, had a great job, was enjoying the city and its people, and I wanted that for myself too. Boston wasn’t a foreign place to me,  I lived outside the city for college. I had friends there and Josh was there–it was a second home to me.  I was a bit apprehensive to move away from my family, but I bit the bullet and applied to a ton of companies and had various interviews (in-person and over the phone).  I actually found a place to live before I had a job. Regardless of employment, I was moving to Boston come September. And for the first time in my life, I wasn’t stressed or afraid. I remained calm, enjoyed the summer with my family and let everything take its course. I was also at a different stage in my life than I was when I was fresh out of school. I knew my worth and I wasn’t willing to settle. This whole taking a leap of faith and letting everything happen the way it was supposed to really worked. It was refreshing. So, if you’re contemplating a change or are stuck in a rut remind yourself of these 5 things:

 1. Your life will never go as planned. Stop trying to plan it. Take everything as it comes and if you’re in a job you hate, you’ll realize that you’re still growing and learning. Be patient and remain positive. You’ll get exactly what you need when you need it.

2. The best things happen when you least expect it. Please, give your brain a drink. Calm your mind and stop thinking about something that you THINK you want. If you try to force something to happen it won’t–that I can assure you. Create a vision board and focus on all that you do have in your life that makes you happy. A positive frame of mind will result in a positive outcome.

3. You can always go home. Listen, we all make mistakes. If the big move to a new city or a new job wasn’t the right one. Go home (after giving it your all, that is). But yes, it’s okay. Family always has your back, so never be afraid to retreat “home” (whatever home is to you).  You are much better off taking a chance and finding out that something’s not for you than you are remaining in your comfort zone.

4. A new city provides a fresh perspective. Boston is a cute little babe compared to Manhattan. I’ve never known a city so proud. The people love this state and it’s ever apparent. I’ve learned a lot from Boston and its people. Like, how aggressive driving really means not looking when entering a rotary, gunning it and hoping for the best. Um, that it’s absolutely acceptable to double park anytime, anywhere. And that while the pizza can never live up to Jersey’s standards, Mike’s Pastry’s cannolis make up for it.

5. Change is good. When I moved without any inhibition,  I felt like an absolute badass. It made me realize how strong I am and that I can do anything I want if I just get out of my own way. It worked. So, scooch out of your way girlfriend and you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

xx

Jacqueline

July 12, 2016

LIVIN’ IN LINEN

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Another summer weekend has come and gone and here I am, back at work, waiting for the weekend. Lucky for me, I have off this Friday (happy summer Friday to me!) so I plan to head down to the beach for some quality time with my parents and pup. I’ve been doing a lot of traveling lately and I really haven’t been able to slow down. From a jam-packed house on Fourth of July weekend to a wedding weekend with up north, I can’t say I’ve gotten much sleep. I’ve noticed, that with my lack of well-rested weekends I’ve become a bit more anxiety-ridden when Monday rolls around. I’m trying to figure out a way to minimize my anxiety during the weekend and I realized last night while spending time with a close friend that I have to begin planning some fun activities or yoga sessions after work. Often times, I come home from work and think about work. Yesterday evening was filled with laughs and good food and it has made me calm and relaxed. It’s super easy to let work consume you, it’s where we spend most of our time, but it doesn’t have to be all we think about and I needed to give myself that important reminder. As I begin to pack and look forward to a relaxing weekend, I can assure you I’ll be donning this Pure Jill printed tiered linen dress. It’s cute, comfortable and casual making it perfect for nights spent by the beach. And I wasn’t lying when I said I would be wearing these Franco Sarto wedges non-stop–sorry not sorry. But in all seriousness, as continue on with your work weeks, be sure to take care of yourself. We only have one life and it’s meant to be lived–so enjoy it all and make the best of every moment–it’ll be gone before you know it. And who really wants to reminisce about how much they sat and thought about work?

xx

Jacqueline

 

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